Overcoming Relationship Anxiety & Emotional Wellbeing

I am a firm believer that “the relationship is the therapy”, which is part of the way I work which enables me to establish and maintain successful and effective working alliances. As part of the therapeutic process, I consider a good working relationship vital in our work together, for a successful outcome to be achieved. It is my aim to provide a safe space where I can listen to you in a non- judgemental, trusting and understanding environment. I work collaboratively with individuals, rather than acting as an expert as I believe each person knows themselves best.

About me. Spini Watts Counselling | Relationship Therapy for Women Across The UK | London | Merton | Colliers Wood | Mitcham | South West London | Spini Watts Counselling

Empowering Women Through Relationship and Emotional Connection Counselling

Welcome to my counselling practice. If you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or uncertain about how to move forward, you're not alone. I provide therapy for women across the UK who are navigating a range of emotional, mental, and life challenges. Life presents challenges that can leave us feeling unsure of ourselves, struggling with relationships, or unsure of where to turn. I understand what it’s like to seek therapy. I’ve been through my own journey of personal development and I know how intimidating it can feel. You’re not alone in this, I know that reaching out for therapy takes courage, and I’m here to walk beside you every step of the way.

In our work together, we’ll explore how your emotions, past experiences, and internal beliefs shape your relationships today. Whether it’s feeling misunderstood, dealing with stress or relationship anxiety, or finding it hard to connect with those around you, we will work to uncover the root causes of these challenges. By getting to know yourself better, you’ll gain clarity about the emotional patterns that affect your relationships, and we can start making changes to create healthier connections.

 

I offer face-to-face counselling sessions in a calm and private garden office located at my home in South West London. The office is accessed via a separate entrance through the side gate, ensuring discretion and privacy. There are no pets on the premises, apart from a few peaceful goldfish in the outdoor pond.

The space includes toilet facilities and has been set up with health and safety in mind to provide a comfortable and welcoming environment.

🚗 Free driveway parking is available for clients.
🚶‍♀️ Easily accessible by public transport:

  • 16-minute walk / 6-minute drive from Colliers Wood Underground Station

  • 13-minute walk / 2-minute drive from Tooting Station

  • 28-minute walk / 6-minute drive from Tooting Broadway Underground Station

  • 25-minute walk / 8-minute drive from South Wimbledon Station

  • 45-minute walk / 9-minute drive from Mitcham Junction Station

Counselling for relationship anxiety in London, Colliers wood, Tooting, South west Wimbledon, Merton, Mitcham, UK, Spini Watts Counselling

Relationship anxiety can manifest as fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, or constant overthinking about your relationship. It can also affect self-esteem and lead to insecurity. It’s important to understand that these feelings are common, and therapy can help address the root causes. Constant worry, self-doubt, and the fear of rejection can leave you feeling disconnected from the people around you. If you find yourself asking, “Do they care about me?” or “Am I enough?” you’re not alone, these are common signs that anxiety is affecting your peace of mind and your connections. Anxiety in relationships can make it hard to feel secure, leading to overthinking, misunderstandings, and unnecessary tension. The constant fear of “messing up” or not meeting expectations can prevent you from fully engaging with others.

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If your relationships are feeling distant or difficult, it’s normal to feel frustrated or unsure of how to make things better. Whether it’s communication problems, misunderstandings, or emotional disconnect, therapy can offer a space to talk things through without judgment. In our sessions, we’ll look at what’s causing the tension and explore how past experiences or patterns might be affecting your relationships. We’ll take things slowly, looking at the emotional needs of both sides, so you can start to rebuild trust, set healthy boundaries, and improve your connection with others.

Exploring the impact of culture and attachment on your relationships, Spini Watts Counselling , Relationship Therapy for Women across the UK, London, Colliers Wood, Merton, Mitcham, Wimbledon, Tooting

In our counselling work, I welcome the exploration of how your cultural background and attachment style may be influencing your emotional responses and relationships. Together, we’ll examine how cultural expectations and past experiences shape your feelings and behaviours.

By exploring what might be affecting your relationships, we’ll identify patterns linked to cultural influences or attachment dynamics. This deeper understanding will support you in recognising how these factors impact your emotional well-being, helping you navigate them more effectively and build healthier, more fulfilling connections with others.

how mind and body are connected Spini watts counselling and psychotherapy

Your mind and body are closely linked. What happens in your mind, your thoughts, feelings, and stress can directly affect your body. Similarly, the way your body feels can impact your mood and how you think. When you feel stressed or anxious, your body reacts. You might feel tension in your muscles, headaches, or tightness in your chest. These physical symptoms are your body’s way of responding to what’s happening in your mind. At the same time, physical problems or discomfort can also influence how you feel emotionally. This is why taking care of your body can help improve your mental health and vice versa. Your brain and body are constantly sending messages to each other. The more stressed your mind feels, the more your body reacts to that stress.

Not all trauma comes from big, dramatic events like accidents or major losses. Some trauma comes from smaller, everyday experiences that slowly build up over time. These are often called “small t” traumas. They can be things like: Being ignored, constant criticism, feeling dismissed or not listened to, being left out, feeling unwanted or not good enough. On their own, these moments might not seem like a big deal. But when they happen again and again, they can leave emotional wounds that affect how you see yourself and how you relate to others.

For example:
If someone is often criticised, they may start to feel anxious, not good enough, or unsure of themselves, even if no one meant to hurt them. These experiences can quietly shape your confidence, your relationships, and your mental health. Just because they seem “small” doesn’t mean they don’t matter.

Therapy for Stress

Stress can feel like it’s always there, whether from work, family, or life in general. It can leave you feeling drained, anxious, or like you’re constantly playing catch-up. In therapy, we’ll take a closer look at where the stress is coming from and how it’s affecting you. We’ll find practical ways to manage it, so it doesn’t control your life. You’ll have space to talk about what’s weighing on you, and we’ll explore ways to regain control, find calm, and start feeling more at ease.

Counselling for Depression

When depression takes hold, it can feel like you're carrying a heavy weight. Sadness, hopelessness, or feeling numb to everything around you can make life feel overwhelming. I’m here to offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore those emotions. Together, we can talk about what’s behind these feelings and find small steps forward that feel right for you. Therapy is about working at your pace, uncovering what’s causing the pain, and gently guiding you toward a sense of balance and calm.

Grief and Loss Therapy

Grief is a painful journey, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or something else important to you. Everyone processes loss differently, but it can often leave you feeling lost, alone, or unsure how to cope. I offer a compassionate, non-judgmental space to talk about your grief at your own pace. Together, we’ll explore your feelings and memories, and find ways to navigate the pain. While grief may never fully go away, in time, we’ll work on finding a way for you to feel more at peace with your loss and create space for healing.

Counselling for Low Self-Esteem

If you feel like you're not enough or struggle to believe in your own worth, you're not alone. Low self-esteem can make life feel harder, whether it affects your relationships, work, or daily confidence. In our sessions, we’ll take things at your pace and explore the reasons behind your feelings. We’ll look at how past experiences may have shaped how you see yourself, and we can work together to change the negative patterns that hold you back. Over time, you’ll start to feel more at ease with who you are and more confident in your choices.

Counselling for Emotional Well-being

Sometimes, life just feels too much, and it’s hard to navigate the emotions on your own. Whether it’s day-to-day stress, feelings of overwhelm, or not knowing where to turn, I’m here to listen. Therapy provides a safe, supportive space to talk through what’s on your mind without fear of judgment. We’ll work together at your pace to understand your emotions and what’s affecting your mental well-being. It’s about finding the right path forward for you, at a pace that feels comfortable, with support along the way.

Therapy for Generalised Anxiety

Living with generalized anxiety can feel overwhelming. The constant worrying, even about things that may never happen, can leave you feeling drained and unable to focus on the present moment. The constant cycle of worrying about the future or everyday tasks can make it difficult to focus and enjoy life. One of the first steps in overcoming generalized anxiety is understanding where it’s coming from. Often, anxiety is connected to unconscious feelings or unresolved issues from the past. These can stem from early childhood, relationships, or other past experiences that may be influencing your current anxiety. By gaining insight into these deeper causes, you’ll begin to understand why you feel the way you do and how it affects your everyday life.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) involves excessive, uncontrollable worry about a variety of situations or events, even when there is no immediate threat. You might experience:

  • Constant worry about life, work, health, or relationships
  • Physical symptoms like muscle tension, headaches, or fatigue
  • Sleep disturbances, such as trouble falling or staying asleep
  • Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
  • Irritability, restlessness, or a sense of being on edge

Living with generalized anxiety can feel overwhelming. The constant worrying, even about things that may never happen, can leave you feeling drained and unable to focus on the present moment. At Spini Watts Counselling, I offer integrative therapy to help you manage these feelings and gain clarity on your emotions.

My approach combines various therapeutic techniques tailored to your unique needs. Whether you're feeling stuck in a cycle of anxiety or struggling to manage the everyday worries that seem to never end, therapy can help you break free and regain control over your life.

One of the first steps in overcoming generalized anxiety is understanding where it’s coming from. Through integrative therapy, we’ll explore your thoughts, emotions, and past experiences. Often, anxiety is connected to unconscious feelings or unresolved issues from the past. These can stem from early childhood, relationships, or other past experiences that may be influencing your current anxiety. By gaining insight into these deeper causes, you’ll begin to understand why you feel the way you do and how it affects your everyday life.

At the core of our work is supporting you to rebuild confidence and find peace. My goal is to help you feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions, and to gradually reduce the hold anxiety has on your life. Together, we’ll work towards healthier coping mechanisms, more clarity, and ultimately, a greater sense of inner calm and emotional well-being.